communication is wonderful for many people. It can provide easy
access to friendship and support for the physically less-abled,
the elderly, carers, and those living in remote locations.
for people who struggle with shyness or low self-esteem, it gives
the opportunity to build confidence and social skills in a non-threatening
environment. But for others, this same accessibility has created
One click to intimacy
Communicating online allows intimacy to build very quickly.
When you can't see the person you're talking to and they can't
see you, you're less likely to feel judged. You won't be looking
to see if they raise their eyebrows in disbelief. And they can't
see if you look nervous or embarrassed. This means you're both
more likely to reveal personal information much earlier than you
would in a face-to-face situation.
downside is that if you can't see someone's face, it's hard to
know if they're lying. It's easy to misrepresent yourself online,
to kid someone you're something that you're not. And if someone
is desperate for love or friendship, they are more likely to fantasise
that the person they're talking to is the perfect partner.
Online relationship success
Online relationships can and do last. As, the internet hasn't
been around long enough to prove that online relationships can
stand the test of time, early indications are good.
people argue that relationships established online are actually
more likely to last because the couple know each other better
before making a commitment. Usually, we meet someone and then
decide if we want to get to know them better; online, it's the
other way around.
meeting people online also has its darker side.
For those who feel lonely or isolated in their relationship,
the web is somewhere they can find a comforting ear. Whatever
the reasons for being unhappy, the internet can become a tempting
distraction from the heartache and hassle of tackling relationship
meeting with others online, often makes things worse. Many partners
feel resentful of the amount of time spent online when they could
be spending time together. And the more time you spend chatting,
laughing, and sharing your problems with someone other than your
partner, the further apart you're likely to feel from them.
you become more and more emotionally detached from your partner,
your chances of embarking on a cyber affair increase.
Some people go online specifically to find sexual partners.
But for many, cyber affairs start off as genuine attempts at friendship.
Intimacy can develop so quickly online that many are shocked at
how soon an online relationship becomes sexual.
will try to justify their behaviour saying it's not really an
affair, but relationship experts agree that any intimate activity
between two people that breaches the trust of a partner is. And
that most certainly includes online relationships.
Coping with online betrayal
If you're the person meeting others online, you need to realise
that it isn't going to solve your relationship problems. It may
make life more comfortable in the short-term, but in the end you're
going to have to face the difficult decisions about your relationship's
on the other hand, you suspect your partner of an online affair,
you need to confront the problem head on. Talking about the problems
you're both having is the essential first step.