WALK ON THE BEACH
GUIDE TO PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
- dating - love - intimacy - health
way you think about your relationships, the skills and attitudes
you bring to them and the time and effort you put in can make
all the difference. People are social creatures and relationships
matter to us. We enjoy them, we cry over them and we're curious
about how to get our relationships to be the way we want them.
How well your relationships work can have a big impact on how
satisfied you feel with life. Stimulating, resilient, satisfying
relationships with partners, friends and family rank high on many
people's wish list for a happy life.
have seven positions that have been tweaked and tailored
by sex experts to help you reach the peak every single time plus,
a few extra tricks so the road to bliss is even more of a sure
When it's a mind-blowing, bed-rattling orgasm you're after,
keeping it simple is absolutely key. Sure, wild, crazy, never-knew-my-body-could-bend-that-way
booty keeps your lust life exciting, but if the goal of the
moment is to break pleasure records, you have to stick to the
basics. "Trying to accomplish complicated acrobatics distracts
you from the sex itself, putting your focus on how you can contort
yourself, rather than on just experiencing the sensations,"
"When you want to climax, the simplest positions are often
also the best positions, and with a few modifications, you can
make them even more orgasm inducing than they already are."
THE SLOW CLIMB
never see missionary position the same way again. "While
on your back, put a pillow under your butt, lift your
hips, and bring your legs up and back toward your shoulders,
as though you're folding in half," . This move allows
him better ease of thrusting and deeper penetration
a perk for both of you. Plus, it can stimulate your G-spot.
But consider this a warm-up you're getting the
zone primed for a more intense orgasm. Once your G-spot
feels sufficiently stroked, put your legs down and have
him get into coital-alignment-technique (CAT) position.
"He's on top, but he lifts his pelvic bone upward,
aligning it with your clitoris,. "Then he rocks against
the area until you peak." "The legs-up position
is a slow burn that brings you to the brink and increases
sensitivity. Then the addition of clitoral rubbing takes
you over the edge in a bigger way than if you had done
You've probably tried an all-fours pose before (at least,
we hope you have!). But while mentally the doggie-style
position has great bad-girl benefits, in order to make
it actually orgasmic, you need to modify it a bit. "Lie
on your stomach, lifting your butt slightly so he can
enter you," "Your partner can prop himself up
with his hands in a push-up position or lie on top of
you." Not only does this facedown configuration provide
increased friction as he moves in and out, but you can
gently grind your clitoral area against the bed as well.
THE CRISS CROSS
With all the twisting and bending that goes on, sometimes
sex can feel more like a cardio workout than a pleasurefest.
That's why it's important to have at least one relaxed
orgasm inducing position in your repertoire. Such
as this: "While you're on your back, he should lie
on his side, turned toward you," "Swing both
legs over his hips and thighs, making a bridge over them."
Then, just let him gently thrust into you. If it takes
you a while to climax, this pose is ideal. "It's
not very aerobic, so the sex can go on for a long time
without either of you tiring out," "When you
want to climax, it's easy to touch yourself or he can
use his top hand to stimulate you."
THE GIDDY UP
tends to be a go-to for achieving orgasm...and for good
reason! "It allows you to dictate the pace and depth
of thrusting, but mainly, you have easy access to your
clitoris," "You can touch your C-spot, have
him touch it, or rub against his pubic bone to achieve
orgasm." But you can up the ante by literally pulling
a 180. Twist around so you're pointed toward his feet
in reverse cowgirl position. "Instead of straddling
him, put your legs together, feet flat between his legs,"
The benefits of this are twofold: With your legs together,
the fit is even tighter, making the sensations more intense.
Plus, there's increased G-spot stimulation, which combined
with your own clitoral strokes, makes for an explosive
some cases, a simple change of scenery can aid in achieving
orgasm. For this move, you'll need a kitchen table
one that comes to your man's waist. "Lie down on
the table with your butt near the edge," "He
enters you while standing between your legs, holding on
to your hips for leverage." You can rest your feet
on his shoulders or on the edge of the table. Because
he's standing, his hands are free to stroke your body,"
"And he's at a perpendicular angle, rather than right
on top of you, making it easier for him to touch your
clitoris, unobstructed." To up your odds of orgasming,
clench and lift up your butt, which will increase the
pelvic tension and blood flow to the area.
LUSTY LAP DANCE
one's always a fan favorite he sits and you straddle
him so you're face-to-face. "You have a lot of control
over the speed, angle, and motion because you can use
your arms and legs to help you maneuver," "Rather
than just moving up and down, which can be especially
tiring for you, sway forward and back, rubbing your clitoral
area against him." In addition to the freedom of
movement, there are a few other benefits to this booty
move. "If you lean back just a little bit, you'll
get greater G-spot stimulation and he'll be able to play
with your clitoris," Plus, your breasts will be perfectly
aligned with his mouth, adding a whole other layer to
the sexual experience.
Obviously, you know emotional attachment is essential
to achieving orgasm with your guy. And there's no configuration
that's more snuggly than the spoon. To assume the position,
simply lie on your side, your guy scooted up behind you.
Rather than move in and out, he should stay inside you,
gently thrusting against the front wall of your vagina.
"Aside from fulfilling your cuddly needs, it provides
consistent stimulation to your G-spot, which is key for
achieving orgasm from intercourse," "Since he
may not be able to penetrate you as deeply though, guide
his hand around your hot spot." And just think: Once
you've both climaxed, you'll be in perfect postcoital
position as well.
IN THE ZONE
# When it comes to achieving supreme pleasure, being in the
right mind-set is half the battle. Let your thoughts wander.
It helps to transport yourself mentally to a sexy place. Fantasize
that you're getting it on in a lust-inspiring locale or even
with another man, like a hot trainer at your gym or, hell, Justin
Timberlake. No guilt it doesn't mean you want to cheat
on your guy.
# Strengthen your senses. Certain smells and sounds can have
a Pavlovian affect on your libido. Think about what puts you
in the mood, and then designate an enhancer that will signal
to your brain and body that it's time to get naughty. For example,
before sex, put on a sultry jazz CD.
# Be selfish. Worrying too much about your guy's pleasure means
you wind up ignoring your own. So silence the inner monologue
of "How am I doing?" and simply enjoy the experience.
Otherwise, it becomes more work than play.
# Stay on course. A stressful day's memories can still manage
to sneak up on you, even when you're mid-mattress session. To
stay in the moment, try to focus your thoughts purely on the
physical and pay attention to how every touch, lick, and stroke