WALK ON THE BEACH
GUIDE TO PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
- dating - love - intimacy - health
way you think about your relationships, the skills and attitudes
you bring to them and the time and effort you put in can make
all the difference. People are social creatures and relationships
matter to us. We enjoy them, we cry over them and we're curious
about how to get our relationships to be the way we want them.
How well your relationships work can have a big impact on how
satisfied you feel with life. Stimulating, resilient, satisfying
relationships with partners, friends and family rank high on many
people's wish list for a happy life.
WOMEN ON TOP
on top offers more gratification than other sex styles because
it lets you feel close to your partner and puts you in charge
of your own pleasure, You decide how fast the pace is and how
deep your guy will enter you, making it more likely that you will
it comes to straddling your sweetie taking the libidinous lead
is a breeze. All that's required are a few how-to tips and a
healthy dose of carnal confidence. If you think you'll feel
like a klutz climbing on your man, try this smooth maneuver:
"While you're in bed kissing, roll on top of him and sit
up with your knees on either side of his hips," With one
hand on the bed or his chest for support, lift your body up
and forward, then guide him into you with your other hand as
you slowly lower yourself. When you're on top, play around with
different poses to see what feels best. You can try putting
your hands or elbows above his head and leaning your torso toward
him, which will bring you close enough to lock lips. To show
off your full-frontal assets and make him go insane
straddle him facing forward and lean back with your arms resting
on his shins or the bed for balance. "Many women avoid
this position because it leaves them feeling so exposed,"
"But it's a major turn-on for both of you."
you'd rather be less revealing, pull your guy's shoulders toward
you so you're both sitting upright with your legs wrapped around
each other and your torsos melded together. This position can
be very intimate since your faces are touching and you can slide
your arms around each other so you're superclose. It's also
a great method for offsetting a too-early orgasm. When you're
sitting with your bodies practically merged, you're barely moving,
which keeps your (or his) climax in a hot holding pattern until
you're both ready.
into a Groove
you're aboard your babe, it's time to settle into a rhythm that
will help you hit your orgasmic peak. "Try moving your
hips in a steady circular motion,. "This way, you'll feel
your man rub against all sides of your vaginal walls, and you
can experiment to find the penetration and positioning that
feel best for you." Or slowly rock back and forth instead
of bouncing up and down, moving your body forward until your
hot button presses against his pubic bone. The combination of
feeling him inside you as your privates are being stimulated
sends many on-top temptresses over the erotic edge. "It
works best when he's deep inside me, with a pillow under his
butt to raise his pelvis slightly so I can rub against him.
I get the extra pleasure of being aroused inside and out."
You can also fine-tune your technique: Arch your back and his
member will be against your orgasm-producing G-spot, felt through
the front of your vaginal wall. Sit straight up and he'll fit
into you more directly, providing a deeper, fuller feel. Keeping
your legs together tightens your grip and boosts the sensations
for both of you, while spreading them apart whether bent at
the knees or stretched-out lets you dabble rather than go deep.
Him Help You
because you're in the driver's seat doesn't mean your dude should
just lie back and enjoy the ride. Ask him to pitch in if your
knees start to feel sore or when a supplementary motion on his
part would make the lovemaking feel twice as nice. "If
it means making sex more intense for both of you, chances are,
he'll want to lend a hand," : "I love controlling
the pace when I ride my guy, but it's nice when he takes over
every so often so that I can catch my breath. Like when I'm
tired of thrusting, he'll clutch my hips and rear end, gently
pulling me forward and pushing me back." Another tip for
dividing the lusty labor: Try grinding your groins in tandem
so you feed off his momentum without having to make all the
waves yourself. Think of it as sexy seesawing, where he's pushing
his pelvis up and toward you while you're thrusting down and
back. The friction will hike up your excitement and provide
sensational clitoral stimulation.
one more major reason why being on top rocks: "No other
position leaves your body so open to exploration," The
fact that your guy has unlimited access to you practically guarantees
a big-time, pulse-pounding payoff. Take advantage of your accessibility
by getting your man to give you a little manual pleasure. Invite
him to run his hands over your breasts and belly, and make sure
he doesn't neglect your hot button. Having him stroke you there
while you're doing the bump-and-grind gives you twice as much
titillation, which can launch you to an otherworldly orgasm.
An easy way to pull this off: "Take his hand and make the
movements you want him to use so he knows what gets you going
and can finish on his own,"The results can be astounding:
"I'd never been able to climax through intercourse, but
one little change to woman-on-top did it for me his hand!"
"That extra stimulation makes sex better than ever."
straddle-his-saddle fears keeping you flat on your back? Here,
three fast fixes for on-top freak-outs:
1: "All of my body flaws will be on display."
Your guy will be so pumped with passion at the sight of you
naked in his lap, he won't notice any so-called flaws. But if
you're nervous about being so up close, lean your upper body
forward and place your arms over his head on the bed or wall
for balance. With your torsos practically touching, he won't
be able to see any of your supposed imperfections.
2: "I feel like I'm bouncing all over." Tame the
bumpy ride by using slower, more controlled movements as you
move up and down. Or ask him to hold your hips or thighs as
he thrusts. Turning his hands into a sexy seat belt will help
steady you. If your breasts or your belly are bobbing, wear
a sexy bra or tank top to keep it all in check.
Worry 3: "We'll get into a staring contest."
Several seconds of sustained eye contact with your guy can leave
you feeling more self-conscious than sexy. Glance away or close
your eyes every few moments as you're savoring the coital sensations.