guy loses his erection when we change positions
like to make sex more interesting with my guy by switching positions.
Unfortunately, he loses his erection when he slips out while
we're adjusting our bodies, so changing poses is difficult.
Is there any way to fix this mess?
of making major shifts in positions, try making minor adjustments
to keep your man's member from slipping out. So, rather than
going from missionary to girl-on-top, for example, try variations
of the same theme.
you start in missionary with your legs wrapped around his waist.
Switch things up by placing your feet flat on his shoulders
and putting a pillow under your butt, which will allow a deeper
angle of penetration. Or, straighten out your legs underneath
his and squeeze your thighs together for a tighter grip. When
you're doing it doggie-style, go from being on all fours to
lying down flat. Amp up the excitement even more by doing Kegels
as he thrusts. If you're in girl-on-top mode, instead of sticking
with up-and-down movements, mix it up by gyrating back and forth
or in circles. You can also bend forward, so your chest is lying
flat against his, or lean all the way back, resting your weight
on your palms behind you. Or, try doing a 180, swiveling around
with him still inside you so you end up facing his feet.
keep experimenting until you find ways to mix up your mattress
moves that work for you. And, if he does happen to slip out
mid-thrust, simply take hold of his penis and guide him back
inside you. If he loses his erection, use your hand or mouth
to bring him back to life and resume your carnal canoodling.
How can I try different positions when
I'm self-conscious about my body?
My boyfriend wants to have sex in crazy positions with
the lights on, but I'm ashamed of my body and don't want him
to see every detail of it. We've been having sex in the dark,
but he wants to see everything. What should I do?
Many women are bummed about how they look nude. But, while you
may think your thighs are flabby or your stomach has rolls,
your man probably hasn't even noticed. Guys don't zero in on
the minute "imperfections" that women obsess over.
And the fact that he wants to try "crazy" positions
with you only shows how much you excite him...exactly the way
you're judging yourself while trying to feel pleasure, you won't
be able to fully enjoy the experience. The first step to stop
the body-bashing thoughts that can sabotage your sack sessions
is to concentrate on how your body feels, rather than how it
looks. Making more eye contact with your partner will also help
keep you in the moment and up the intimacy factor.
getting comfortable with baring it all in front of your man
won't happen overnight, you can help boost your in-the-buff
confidence by trying these tricks: Instead of jumping into lights-on
action, light a bunch of mood-enhancing candles. Have sex in
positions that highlight your assets. For instance, if you love
your boobs, try girl-on-top mode. Or, if your booty is one of
your favorite body parts, do it doggie-style. You can also let
your guy feast his eyes on your form without showcasing all
of your skin by donning sexy lingerie or wearing a slinky tank
-- and nothing else. Leaving a little to your man's imagination
can be a huge turn-on.
you gradually get used to being ogled by your guy, your self-esteem
-- and sexual satisfaction -- will skyrocket. After all, there's
nothing sexier than a woman who loves her own bod. And that's
the naked truth.
How do I "69" with my guy?
exactly is "69" and how do I do it?
refers to the carnal configuration that allows you and your
man to give each other simultaneous oral action. It's called
"69" because of the way it looks when you and your
man match your mouths to each other's genitals. And, while it
may take a little more coordination and confidence than other
bedroom moves, the effort is usually worth it.
are a few ways to tackle this maneuver. If you want to control
how much pressure you receive, try the girl-on-top position.
Straddle your guy's chest, facing his toes, lean forward, and
straighten out your legs, so you have easy access to his below-the-belt
area and he has access to yours. Another way to get into this
pose is to have your man lie across the width of the bed with
his head hanging slightly over the edge while you stand on the
floor over him. Start kissing his mouth, then crawl over him
onto the bed, licking your way down from his chest all the way
to his groin until you're both in the mouth-to-genitals position.
being on top gets a little tiring, or you just want to give
your guy the randy reins, lie back and let him straddle you.
One of the advantages of this pose: Your hands are free to titillate
him even more. So, gently fondle his shaft, testicles, and perineum
the nerve-packed stretch of skin between his butt and
balls in conjunction with your mouth moves and you'll
send currents of pleasure coursing through his bod.
there's the side-by-side pose, where you both lie of your sides
facing each other, with your mouths directly in front of the
other's genitals. If you bend your top legs at the knee and
put your feet flat on the bed, you can use each other's lower
thighs as a cushion to rest your heads.
these positions might take a little maneuvering. The trick is
to experiment until you figure out what works best for both
of you. Also, don't freak if your erotic endeavors don't result
in the most amazing orgasm ever. Some people find it difficult
to concentrate on their own pleasure while focusing on their
partner. If that's the case, just enjoy the act for what it
is an incredibly sexy, intimate way for you and your
man to connect and turn each other on.
Why does he love doggie-style so much?
For some reason, my boyfriend is really into having sex in
the doggie-style position, but I totally don't get the appeal.
Plus, I hate giving him a front-row seat to my butt sticking
up in the air. What is it about this pose that guys are so into?
doggie-style. Guys have been enjoying this position since the
days when we gnawed on saber-toothed-tiger bones and dragged
our girlfriends around by their hair. In fact, that's a major
reason for its widespread appeal the position is so primal
that it brings us back to our animalistic roots. (Hello, it
is named after a canine, after all.)
Another reason your guy rolls over and begs for doggie-style
is because it feels so damn good. When he's on his knees, he's
able to put more power behind his thrusting. Plus, this stance
allows him to control the action without doing a number on his
biceps. If you simply hate doing it doggie-style or you find
it awkward and uncomfortable, then you need to level with him.
Say, "Look, I know you love it, but I really don't enjoy
it. Is there any other position you might like just as much?"
That way, he won't feel like a sad kid who just lost his ice
Now, if the real reason why you're so opposed to it is because
you don't like him looking at your butt, I suggest you try to
get over it. Trust me on this: He's too focused on how good
it feels to notice how much cushion there is for the pushin'.
More important, whether big or small, fit or not-so-toned, there's
something about a chick's rear end that guys just go crazy for.
He's way taller than me
'm really looking forward to hooking up with this guy.
I like him a lot and find him very sexually attractive, but
there's a small problem. I'm 5'3" and he's 6'10"!
Since it's awkward to hug when we're both standing, I'm worried
that it's going to be tricky when we have sex. Any advice on
good positions for oral sex and intercourse so things can line
up and my nose won't be in his belly button?
got nothing to worry about. Countless couples varying in size
and shape have figured out ways for their bodies to mesh. As
soon as you and your new guy get it on, you'll learn to master
carnal configurations that work for the two of you.
the size discrepancy, it might be hard for you to manage the
69 position, so during oral action take turns focusing on each
other. As for doing the deed, the only position that might pose
a problem is both of you standing. While your best bets are
those positions in which you don't have to be aligned, such
as woman-on-top and doggie-style, you can easily make the missionary
work as long as he supports his weight with his arms,holding
his body above yours. The even better news: Thanks to your out-of-sync
sizes, you may be able to easily maneuver some moves that are
difficult for more equally proportioned couples, like having
him stand while holding you with your legs around his waist.
Just remember, good sex is all about trial and error. You won't
know exactly what will work until you experiment. And won't
that be fun!
How can we spice up the man-on-top position?
I've had sex in different positions, but my favorite is missionary.
I don't want to seem boring in bed. What variations can you
suggest to make sex more exciting while sticking to such a traditional
one of many fans of the missionary position. And it's no surprise,
considering that man-on-top mode is totally intimate, allowing
you and your guy constant eye contact and easy access to kissing.
Plus, it's relatively relaxing for you, putting him in control
as you lie back and enjoy. But just because missionary puts
you in a more passive role, that doesn't mean youneed to just
lie there. There are plenty of ways you can work this position
to spice up sex.
he's inside you, have him shift his body up toward your navel
so that the base of his penis and pelvic bone press against
your mons (the fatty pad of tissue on top of your public bone)
and clitoris. Then, instead of him thrusting, rock your bodies
against each other in a back-and-forth motion. With a few minor
adjustments (experiment with a pillow beneath yourbutt to adjust
the angle) you should be able to hit the clitoral jackpot.
superdeep penetration is what you crave, draw your knees toward
your chest and grasp the back of your thighs. You can also place
the soles of your feet on his chest or, if you're really flexible,
prop your ankles or legs up on his shoulders.
you prefer shallow strokes, straighten your legs and keep them
between his. Then, squeeze your thighs together as he glides
in and out, creating extra friction against his shaft and your
vaginal lips. If this motion misses your clitoris, try the pillow
trick mentioned above.
feel free to experiment with your own variations on missionary
until you find one you and your guy both love. And remember:
It's not the positions you do that make you fun in bed. The
most important factor for between-the-sheets success is pure,