is sex therapy?
therapy offers help for people with sexual problems.
been around for over 40 years now, so it's not a newfangled trend.
It has proven success rates and is a service which is regularly
referred to by counsellors, GPs and other medical professionals.
therapists are trained counsellors or medical professionals who've
undertaken additional training in the physical and psychological
issues associated with sexual functioning.
What sort of problems do therapists deal with?
The problems fit into three basic categories: can't get it
up, can't get it in, can't be bothered. In fact, therapists tackle
pretty much any sexual problem that isn't sorting itself out!
It may be a problem you've had for ages or it might be something
that's developed after a previously good sex life. You may know
exactly what has caused your particular problem - or like many,
you may be mystified.
sexual problems are purely physical. They could result from disability,
illness or a side-effect of medication. Some are purely psychological,
originating in negative childhood messages or sexual trauma. Or
perhaps the problem stems from relationship difficulties. The
majority of problems have a combination of physical and psychological
Typical problems resolved
* Erection problems
* Ejaculating too quickly
* Difficulty reaching orgasm
* Painful intercourse
* Problems with penetration
* Can't get sexually excited
* Gone off it altogether
* Sexual addiction
sort of people go?
There's no one type of person who sees a sex therapist. You
may be gay, straight or bisexual. I've seen people in their teens
and in their 70s. I've seen unemployed barristers, Muslim virgins
and Anglican priests. If you have a partner who won't go for therapy,
you may still find, as may have, that a few sessions on your own
can be really helpful.
seems to be harder for some people than others to ask for help
about sexual problems. It's a very personal subject and most of
us have been brought up with the myth that sex should always come
in reality, sexual problems affect pretty much everyone at some
stage in their life. For some the problem resolves itself over
time, but for others it's very valuable to call in the experts.
How does it work?
First, your therapist will discuss the problem with you and
help you identify if the cause is physical, psychological or a
combination of the two. If you're in a relationship, you'll also
explore if there are any unresolved tensions or anxieties that
may decide that relationship counselling would be useful to resolve
some particular issues. If that's the case, you may do that with
your therapist or you may see someone else and then return to
your therapist to sort out the sexual problem.
therapist will put together a personalised plan of exercises for
you (and your partner if you've got one) to do at home. These
exercises will help you grow in self-awareness, sexual knowledge
and sexual skills. At the same time, they will help to persuade
your body to respond to sensual and sexual stimulation and overcome
your specific problem.