A WALK ON THE BEACH
A GUIDE TO PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
relationships - dating - love - intimacy - health
The way you think about your relationships, the skills and attitudes you bring to them and the time and effort you put in can make all the difference. People are social creatures and relationships matter to us. We enjoy them, we cry over them and we're curious about how to get our relationships to be the way we want them. How well your relationships work can have a big impact on how satisfied you feel with life. Stimulating, resilient, satisfying relationships with partners, friends and family rank high on many people's wish list for a happy life.
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

1. WHAT IS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
One in four suffer

2. YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN
Get support, talk to your kids.

3. LIFE AFTER ABUSE
It's hard but life can get better

4. ARE YOU IN ONE
Signs to look out for

5. IF ITS HAPPENING TO YOU
Know your options  

6. HELPING SOMEONE YOU KNOW
How to help
SAFETY WARNING
If you're worried about someone knowing you have visited this website then please read this warning. It tells you how to take steps to increase your safety when using the internet.

History / cache file
It's possible for someone to know which websites you have visited by looking through your computer's history or cache file (automatically saved web pages and graphics). You can clear your history or empty your cache file in your browser's settings. Here's how you do it.

IMPORTANT
The information below may not completely hide your tracks. The safest way to find information on the internet is to do it in a safe place. This could be at a local library, a friend's house, or at work.

Internet Explorer
Click on the Tools menu (in the row at the top of the browser). Select Internet Options from the drop down menu. You should now be on a tab that says 'General' - if not, select 'General'. Under the title, 'Temporary Internet Files', click on 'Delete Files'. You can also check the box that says delete all offline content. Then, under 'History' click on 'Clear History.' Then click OK, at the bottom.
Netscape

Pull down the 'Edit' menu, select 'Preferences' from the drop down menu. Click on 'Navigator' - (this may be a tab at the top or an option in a list on the left). Click on the 'Clear History' button.

Then click on 'Advanced' (this may be a tab or an option in a list on the left. If it's in a list, please click on the + sign). Then select 'Cache'. Click on 'Clear Disk Cache'.

E-MAIL
If an abuser has access to your e-mail account, they may be able to read your incoming and outgoing mail. If you believe your account is secure, make sure you choose a password that an abuser will not be able to guess.

If an abuser sends you threatening or harassing e-mail messages, they may be printed and saved as evidence of this abuse.


LINKS
The way you think about your relationships, the skills and attitudes you bring to them and the time and effort you put in can make all the difference.
People are social creatures and relationships matter to us. We enjoy them, we cry over them and we're curious about how to get our relationships to be the way we want them. How well your relationships work can have a big impact on how satisfied you feel with life. Stimulating, resilient, satisfying relationships with partners, friends and family rank high on many people's wish list for a happy life
FAMILY COURT OF NEW ZEALAND
The Family Court of New Zealand deals with a wide range of issues but many of them involve the care of children.
This website explains many of the things you might want to know if you are coming to the Family Court, or just wondering whether the Court could help you or someone you know.
Click Here to visit site
YOUTHLINE
Youthline
provides a free, confidential and non judgemental telephone counselling service. We are here to listen to you and help you with your problems. Our objective is to help guide you towards exercising your own choises and finding answers to your own issues.
Click Here to visit site.
NEW ZEALAND POLICE
Over the last six years overall recorded crime in New Zealand has dropped by 7.8% against a population increase of 4.3%, and over the same period the Police rate for resolving crime has improved by 5%.
Click Here to visit site.
WOMEN'S REFUGE
If you're in danger now call 111 for the Police- or ask neighbours or friends to ring for you. Run outside - head for where there are other people. Scream for help - let the neighbours hear you. Take the children with you. Don't stop to get anything else.
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LIFELINE
LifeLine provides free, professional and confidential telephone counselling services and professional "Face to Face" counselling (by appointment) with payment on a sliding scale. We are always here 24 hours, 365 days a year - one phone call could help you make decisions that are life-changing.
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MENTAL HEALTH FOUNDATION
In acknowledging where we have come from and where we are going we invite you to enter the website of the Mental Health Foundation of New Zealand. Mental health promotion works to enable individuals, whanau, organisations and communities to improve and sustain their mental health and realise their full potential.
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